For everyone who is a little relationship challenged, David Coleman came to visit Cal State Monterey Bay (CSUMB) on April 11. David Coleman is Campus Magazine’s 13-time Speaker of the Year, has spoken to over 3 million people, and was the 2011 Entertainer of the Year; he is the Dating Doctor.
CSUMB had the privilege of listening to his hilarious and informative presentation on April 11 at the University Ballroom. The audience was lively and eager to ask Coleman for advice… for their “friend”, of course.
One thing the dating doctor made clear never works is friends with benefits. David said this never works because feelings, usually from women, start to form. So ladies and gentleman, stay friends in the streets and not in the sheets.
Coleman went on to discuss how people always ask him how to find the person who will “complete” them. He said you should not be searching for the person who completes you because you should be complete on your own. You need to be looking for someone who complements you, someone that brings the best out of you.
He was asked a question which goes through everyone’s head: what do you consider cheating? Coleman said if your partner will not let you look through their texts, social media site, emails, or voicemails you are probably being cheated on and most definitely being lied to.
Attraction was another topic which was discussed. If a girl breaks the touch barrier and makes contact with you, a friendly nudge to the arm for example, and if a guy makes and keeps eye contact with you, they are attracted to you, said Coleman.
When asked what the one piece of advice which is vital for college students regarding relationships is, Coleman had two things to say, “Never mistake infatuation for love, sometimes people meet each other and go, ‘oh my god, I am in love,’ but it takes longer than 10 minutes to get to know someone. And also, the person who cares the least in the relationship has all the control. If one person is putting in all the effort and the other one could care less, it is the one who cares less that has all the control.”
David Coleman ended the presentation by generously autographing books and taking relationship questions from students.