[Sexual Healing] Sexting…

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“Send me a naked pic,” “I’m so hard right now,” “Come over tonight” These are the things we see on a daily basis as SEXters. I feel as though through sexting the sign saying “chivalry is dead” couldn’t glow any brighter! Where is the love story behind the words, “you make me so horny?”

However, us girls aren’t any better either. We send the naked pics (with our faces cropped out hopefully) and sext right on back with things that turn the boys on. Sexting is fun, it’s an exciting form of flirting and a way for people to be naughty behind closed doors, or should I say the cell phone. But when that’s all that we are doing, there is something wrong. What happened to the late nights on the phone talking for hours unconsciously realizing that the sun was rising, or sending love letters to each other saying the simple reasons why we L-O-V-E each other?

I just think that sexting should be something that’s added to the relationship to enhance it rather than the only thing it consists of. I don’t want to have to rely on the Romance Comedies starring Katherine Heigl to get my love fix. So fellas, take the time to tell your lady why her smile is the reason you wake up in the morning, or her touch is what makes you melt (no pun intended). And ladies, remember, all pics sent via text, email, etc can later haunt you.

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It can be vulgar, inappropriate, awkward, and sometimes, downright embarrassing. But frankly sexting is fun! The act of sending little dirty messages through your cell phone to someone can be an exhilarating experience that can strengthen any relationship, especially one that is long-distance.

My partner and I used to live a state apart, he was here and I was in Oregon. Sometimes it was difficult to keep the romance and spice within our relationship. Sure we would Skype and chat online, but those times were far in between and mostly in the evening. Sexting gave us another option to maintain our “sexual” relationship throughout the day.

Sexting is great because unlike having phone sex, which would require one to find a private (or at least semi-private) space to talk on the phone, someone can text their dirty little thoughts back and forth with their significant other in a public setting.

Who knows, maybe the idea of doing it in a public setting is part of the fun? There is nothing like getting a little dirty text message right in the middle of class, sneaking a steamy response text back under the desk. Sure, it can cause you to blush a little, but the fact is, its nice to know that someone out there thinks about you in this way at random times during the day.

All of us have sexy thoughts about the people we are dating. Sexting becomes just one more way for us to share these thoughts with the people we care about. Its flattering that your significant other believes that you are so sexy and desirable that they would take the time to send you text messages that show it.

And hey, what safer sex is there? An innocent little text message that can turn on (and get off) both parties without having to risk the chance of STD’s, pregnancy, or, for some, going against their religious beliefs.

Honestly sexting is safe, its sexy, and it shows someone that you care. Sure there may be some trepidation, not knowing what to say or how to say it, but just like intercourse, sexting is messy. Don’t think too much about it, just do it and enjoy yourself. Let sexting become a part of your sexual lifestyle; it’s the perfect amount of spontaneity and spice to liven up any relationship, whether it be long-distance, or married in the same house.